“I feel I have nothing,” were the words of a client. What is triggering that feeling, I asked. The client responded “Self-Isolation.” Words are powerful, and self-talk can shift one’s outlook on a situation. Isolation can give the perspective of loneliness, apart from, to separate. Feelings which can  prompt anxiety, panic and depression. If the word isolation is replaced with distancing the perspective shifts. Distance is viewed simply as space between two points. The standard personal space between good friends and family members not including intimate partners is 1½ to 3 feet. That space can extend to 10 feet for casual acquaintances and coworkers. This information can put things in perspective regarding the climate of the country at this time. Realizing personal space etiquette is a daily occurrence, can shift self-talk from doom closer to normalcy.

 

The shifted self-talk can be strengthened by supportive daily activities.  Maintain a daily schedule. This gives a sense of control during a time of uncertainty. Use time that is normally dedicated to travel time to do something for self (workout, meditate, deep breathing).Reach out to friends/family you have not talked to recently.  Prepare and enjoy meals as a family (allow each family member to choose a recipe). Organize virtual workouts. Organize virtual lunches with those who normally share lunchtime.  Conduct neighborhood driveway coffee break with neighbors. All of these activities will keep people connected while complying with the social distancing order.

 

In addition to staying connected, people are able to conquer negative thoughts during a crisis when their actions are aimed at being helpful. There are activities that can meet that need and maintain social distancing. Arrange for each neighbor to create a motivational yard sign. Create safety packets (wipes, pair of gloves, D.I.Y. mask, paper towel, tissue) for delivery personnel.  Arrange neighborhood food drive or blood drive. Ensure any elderly or disabled neighbor is being checked on. Use electronic methods to have face to face time with those living alone. According to Wayne Dyer, if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. And there is no better time than now to apply those words to daily life.

 

The APA (American Psychology Association) recommends the following to cope with social distancing:

  • Create and follow a daily routine
  • Stay virtually connected to others
  • Rely on pets for emotional support
  • Maintain a healthy lifestyles

 

Remember social distancing is one of the tools each of us can use in Flattening the Curve on Coronavirus.

 

Author: Helena Davis, LPC